Demystifying The Behaviors of Children Who Were Adopted
Welcome! Life isn’t going how you imagined it would? Your child who you adopted is acting out and you are not sure why? Coaching Parents whose children were adopted is a passion of mine. I have tons of adoption experience personally and professionally. Transitioning to an adoptive family is beautiful and difficult sometimes.
Children who were adopted get a bad wrap a lot of the time. I’ve seen teenagers who are adopted through the venues of working as their counselor or case manager. Many teens were being labeled, institutionalized, cutting themselves, suicidal, etc. Many times because of attachment and bonding issues, genetics or traumatic stress. So, my passion is to help parents who adopted their children during the early stages of the adoption process to change the course for children who are adopted. I want to help you gain tools to meet your adopted child’s needs. Hopefully, preventing the turmoil in teenage years. Let me assist you to demystify what is going on with their behaviors and how you can help them be successful in managing their adoption story and life. Whether you have a baby, toddler or a child under 10, we can do this through virtual coaching so you can be anywhere and receive my services. The online platform we will use is Zoom.
When you adopted your child you thought this is my child now.
We don’t have to talk about the birth family, right? Many adoptive parents would like to forget about the birth family and get on with their own family. However, the birth family is a core part of who your child is inside.
Or maybe you thought we can talk about the birth family with our child but they won’t affect our relationship in anyway?
Guess again. The birth family is like a ghost in your house in the background but you aren’t always aware of how they are popping up in your current family.
For example, your child won’t go to bed. You think this is a typical child not going to bed. But what you don’t realize in their subconscious mind even, they may be thinking if I go to bed my parents may not be here in the morning. That is pretty scary. Would you go to bed? There is a primal abandonment wound from the separation from their birth family (even if they were 1 day old when you adopted them). There are things you can do to reassure your child they are safe.
Now, if you weren’t adopted those thoughts wouldn’t enter into your brain, right? So, as adoptive parents we need to be extra aware of these issues so we can help our children move through whatever is scaring them at the moment. Most of the acting out behaviors are so they can feel safe. But what most parents do is focus on the behavior rather than what is going on behind the behavior. Let me help you demystify what is going on with your adopted child and give you the tools to help them learn coping skills for a lifetime!